Can Men Experience Narcissistic Abuse?

A Trauma-Informed Counsellor’s Perspective on Supporting Men Through Emotional Abuse

As a trauma-informed counsellor, I provide compassionate, confidential counselling services to individuals affected by narcissistic abuse. While emotional abuse is often associated with women, narcissistic abuse in men is real, damaging, and far more common than most people realize.

In this article, I’ll help you understand how men experience narcissistic abuse or antagonistic relational stress, the common signs to look for, and how professional counselling can support healing and recovery.

What Is Narcissistic Abuse?

Narcissistic abuse refers to a pattern of emotional manipulation and psychological control often used by individuals with narcissistic or antagonistic personality traits. This abuse typically includes:

• Gaslighting

• Guilt manipulation

• Emotional withholding

• Verbal degradation

• Controlling behaviour

It can occur in romantic relationships, but also within families, friendships, and workplaces. The impact is deeply personal and can lead to long-term emotional trauma if not addressed.

Can Men Be Victims of Narcissistic Abuse?

Absolutely. Men can and do experience narcissistic abuse, but they often suffer in silence due to societal stigma and traditional views of masculinity.

In my counselling work with male clients, I often hear:

• "No one would believe me."

• "I feel ashamed to speak up."

• "I didn’t even realize it was abuse."

These feelings are common—and they are valid. It’s not weakness to seek help. It’s courage.

Common Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Men

Recognizing the abuse is the first step toward healing. As a trauma-informed counsellor, I help male survivors identify the following common signs:

1. Constant Self-Doubt

You question your reality or feel mentally foggy after interactions.

2. Emotional Exhaustion

You feel drained, anxious, or numb—especially after conversations or arguments.

3. Loss of Identity

You don’t recognize who you are anymore or what brings you joy.

4. Walking on Eggshells

You alter your behavior to avoid triggering anger or disapproval.

5. Isolation from Loved Ones

You’ve become distant from friends and family due to manipulation.

6. Being Blamed for Everything

You’re always “the problem,” regardless of the situation.

7. Conditional Love

Affection is used as a tool for control—given and taken away at will.

Why Narcissistic Abuse in Men Often Goes Unnoticed

Many men hesitate to speak out due to:

• Cultural pressures to “man up”

• The dread of judgment or disbelief

• The misconception that abuse only happens to women

As a result, many male survivors suffer in silence, often battling anxiety, depression, and low self-worth.

Why Men Stay in Emotionally Abusive Relationships

Just like female survivors, men may remain in toxic relationships for reasons that are complex and layered:

• Hope that things will change for the better

• Fear of losing access to their children

• Emotional manipulation and guilt

• Financial control or dependency

• Lack of emotional support or resources

If this is your situation, please know—you are not weak, and you are not alone.

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: Counselling for Men

Recovery takes time, but with the right support, healing is absolutely possible. As a trauma-informed therapist, I help men:

1. Seek Safe, Confidential Support

In our counselling sessions, you’ll be heard without judgment and supported every step of the way to connect the dots of your situation.

2. Understand Narcissistic Patterns

Psychoeducation helps restore clarity and rebuilds self-trust.

3. Reclaim Boundaries

You’ll learn my A2LDS Inner Strength Boundary System to set and maintain healthy emotional and relational boundaries within a challenging dynamic while upholding your self-respect.

4. Practice Self-Compassion

We’ll work to replace shame and self-blame with confidence and foster healthy inner strength.

You Deserve to Be Heard, Respected, and Supported

Narcissistic abuse doesn’t discriminate. Men deserve the same recognition, support, and resources as anyone else experiencing emotional trauma.

If you’re struggling in silence, I invite you to reach out. Healing starts with one step—and I’m here to walk that path with you.

Ready to Talk?

Let’s Begin Your Journey of Reclaiming Yourself and Your Life

Book a 30-minute complimentary consultation today to learn how I can support your recovery from narcissistic abuse or antagonistic relational stress.